Top 10 tips for living in a collective

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Are you going to live for yourself for the first time? Some students move out for the first time when they are going to study. It can offer some challenges but it can also offer many good and fun memories! Living with other people is a great way to get to know yourself better and learn to meet people with different personalities. Here is a guide to living in a collective!

1. Talk about boundaries in advance

Let the first thing you do is arrange a meeting where you talk about the following things:

  • What it is like to be a good cohabitant
  • Is it ok to borrow things without asking?
  • What about spring and party?
  • Morning and evening routines
  • Washing routines

Let everyone answer, and come up with a solution that works for everyone.

Why? Because people grew up with different routines and have different boundaries for what is okay and what is not. Those with many siblings may be better accustomed to borrowing things without asking, while the only children may be accustomed to having their own. Talk about it in advance so you know what the others tolerate and do not.

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2. Ask / Talk about it

Rather once too much than once too little. Most things are solved with a simple question, and your cohabitant will probably appreciate it. Not everyone likes to lend hair brushes and tea bags, and then it's nice to ask so that the other does not have to get annoyed. Then you can rather set the standard and show generosity. Chances are high that the delegate is contagious.

Communication is the source of all good. Do not go and get annoyed about things, try to avoid a huge explosion by talking calmly about it along the way. If you feel your mind start to bubble, take a few minutes to calm down before talking to the person in question. You rarely get anywhere with anger.

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​ 3. letting go

Sounds unnecessary - but really, let small things go. Choose your matches. And if you are going to bring it up, make it properly, and make sure you leave the conversation as friends.

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4. Common project

A Common project can strengthen the collective. Examples can be:

• All deposit bottle money is placed in a jar, and the money goes to, for example, dope paper and cleaning, or pizza dinner on Saturday.

• If this suits you: arrange a regular washing day a week. Play some music, wash for an hour, and finish with a coffee break.

• Sew each their pillow to the sofa. Then everyone feels a little ownership, and it's a nice joint activity.

Buy a potted plant or plant a seed for which everyone is responsible. Map how much it has grown for each week. Maybe it's just a plant that is needed for everyone to become best friends?

The most important thing is to find something that everyone can take part in. It does not have to be big, but something that means that you have to communicate about a little other things than double brushes and electricity bills as well.

5. Put your private away

If you have something private that you do not want anyone to borrow it, put it in the room. It is more difficult to keep track of who owns what of things that are in the common areas. Private equipment on the kitchen counter? Mark with your name.

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6. Invite in!

Are you going to a party or a dinner party? Consider inviting your roommates along! They are guaranteed to be happy about that. It is the case that it is everyone's home, and it is not certain that there will be such a good atmosphere if they do not feel welcome in their own home. The more the merrier!

7. Shared dinner

Try to do something cozy together once in a while. You should actually be a small family for a while to come. It is also much nicer to stay with people you know, and a dinner a week or something cozy can do a lot for the community feeling.

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8. My mess = our mess

The tip here is to think about that when you mess it up in the common area, then it becomes a problem for the others as well. If it is difficult to clean or wash over, equipment such as cloth, mop and detergent should be easily accessible. Whether you have it under the kitchen counter, a cupboard or in the toilet area. Continuity in keeping it clean is important to make it easier to get started every time. Same as training!

9. Use a headset

Sometimes it can be smart to keep your music or podcast to yourself. What can be nice sound and good mood for you can be noise for others. Use a headset to keep yourself from being disturbed or disturbed by others.

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10. Rules exist for a reason

And the reason for that is to keep our student housing in order, prevent problems and injuries for you and everyone else. These are the general rules, which we at SiMolde make for most people to have a great stay. But the internal rules of the collective are just as important. It is easy to look at rules as limitations but they are just guidelines for a good community.


​ Problems in the collective?

It is available for Book a Living Environment Coordinator to attend public meetings for you and you.

We hope that all our residents find themselves at ease!